The First Date Syndrome

I was talking to my Mom about some recent dates I have been on. She replied by asking me how the dates had been going- I replied, "They have been great. Each date surprised me with something new. So and so surprised me by how easy he was to talk to. So and so surprised me by opening all my doors. I actually had a great time."

She would then ask me how they have since been. I would reply, "I don't know. I only got one date."

The First Date Syndrome. It's a real thing. I know for even myself, we come home from a date and immediately our roommates/ friends/ family/ dog/ whomever says, "How was the date? Do you see it going somewhere? Do you think there will be another one?"

Wrong policy.

Don't get me wrong. Just like I said above, this is something I even do, but why? Why do we feel so inclined to know by the first date if someone is going to be someone we want to marry??

I understand that there are situations. We don't want to lead the guy or girl on. We may not feel safe with that individual- but have you really given it a chance?

If you answered yes, stop reading. If your curious, here is some food for thought.

What if every date we went on- we went with the intent of making that person (our date) a better person? What if we taught them what it was like to have a nice conversation where you felt like someone was listening? Expect respect with opening doors, cell phone use, etc? What if we left that date feeling like they were a better person?

Notice my words. Not feeling like they wanted to date/ marry/ kiss that person. But instead- made someone want to be a better person.

We already feel so much from stress/ worry from school, jobs, financial situations, roommates, family conditions, etc.- Why add one more?

Take dating seriously. Take creating friendships seriously. Take being kind seriously.